Have you ever made a commitment before? Was it life changing? A month ago yesterday I made a commitment with God and my family to stay pure until God brings the one HE’s chosen for me into my life. This is a very serious thing. Today, in our world, it is very hard to maintain purity. The world has so many temptations, evil thoughts, pictures etc. that can defile you. I thank God that HE has given me godly parents that have kept me from these evil things and are step by step helping me prepare for marriage.
Back in the Bible time young ladies had a hard time maintaining purity. It’s nice to know we’re not alone!!(: We can read about different young ladies that had their purity defiled, we use this as an encouragement to do what’s right. In Genesis 34:1 we read “And Dinah, the daughter of Leah, which she bear unto Jacob, went out to see the daughters of the land.” This is where she made her mistake-BIG mistake! If she had stayed under her father’s umbrella of protection and if Jacob had fulfilled his God-given responsibility to teach and protect her, there’s a high probability that Dinah wouldn’t have been defiled (See Genesis 34:1-31). May we willingly choose to stay under the proper authority until the proper time!
Also we read in 2 Samuel 13:1 that David had a daughter named Tamar who was also defiled by her half-brother Amnon (See II Samuel 13:1-20). Again we are reminded to keep ourselves pure! In Proverbs 31:3 Solomon’s mother (Bathsheba) warned Solomon of strange women. “Give not thy strength unto strange women…..and unto strange women shalt thou not go.” Even though this is given to a man it is just as important for us women to not become that “strange women!”
Dad gave me an illustration one day. He said “What if you had a life like one of those girls you see out there in the world. You flirted, kissed, hugged, paired up, broke up, paired up, broke up and had relationships with many different men. Meanwhile, you have given pieces of your heart away to these different men. Then one day you meet the one you’re supposed to marry. How would he feel when all you have to give him is just one little piece of your heart? I t would not mean much to him nor to you when you have defiled yourself and only have a little piece left for him.” My purpose is to give my whole heart and my first kiss as well because it is the right thing to do! Wow, what a lot to think about!
So, on January 8, 2012, I made a commitment before God and my family to stay pure until marriage. I said the following words from memory:
This ring stands for purity. I make this promise between God, my parents and me.
To keep me on a path of righteousness
So your plan I will see.
I know you have a special person for me,
My one true love,
To whom you have chosen
and sent from above.
This person I will wait for
Because it is Your Heavenly Will.
Until that day
When he makes my heart stand still.
This is the promise I make
With the help of You, LORD, and my family
I know that when I succeed
My blessing will be plenty.
The ring that Dad gave me has a silver heart with a red charm in the middle. The red charm is like a ruby and the ruby is God’s precious jewel just like I am precious to God. God compares a virtuous woman to a ruby (Proverbs 31:10). The heart is a symbol of a pure heart. “Blessed are the pure in heart……” Matt. 5:8 and “the King’s Daughter is all glorious within….” Psalms 46:13. You are the King’s Daughter and you can not remain that way by yourself, but with God’s help stay pure in heart!
In closing I would like to share my Grandma’s exhortation to me:
When your Dad told me you were making a “Purity Commitment” this Sunday, January 8th, I decided to write a few thoughts down to you, with the hope, you will take them to heart. I am very proud of you and encouraged by your decision to make this commitment to the LORD.
In II Kings 2 :9, Elisha asked God, “that a double portion of Elijah’s spirit be upon him.” This was a bold request, but God granted it. Why? Because Elisha’s motives were pure. His main goal was not to be better or more powerful than Elijah, but to accomplish more for God. When our motives are pure, we don’t have to be afraid to ask great things of God.
Psalms 119:9 says “Wherewithal shall a young man(woman) cleanse his (her) way? By taking heed thereto according to the Word. In other words, by reading God’s word and doing what it says.
In Matthew 23:24, Jesus said “Ye blind guides, which strain at a gnat, and swallow a camel.” Jesus was condemning the Pharisees and religious leaders for appearing saintly and holy outwardly, but inwardly remaining full of corruption and greed. If our Christianity is merely a show for others, it’s like washing a cup on the outside only. When we are clean or pure on the inside our cleanliness won’t be a sham or fake.
In John 17:17, Jesus said “Sanctify them through thy truth, they Word is truth.” Jesus was referring to His disciples in this verse, but it applies to us today, just the same. A follower of Christ becomes sanctified (meaning set apart for sacred use, cleansed and made holy, by believing and obeying God’s Word. Daily application of God’s Word has a purifying effect on our minds and hearts. It points our sin in our lives, and guides us back to the right path.
In today’s world, it is harder than ever to maintain purity in our lives. My prayer for you, Christina, is that you stay as close to God, throughout your life, as you can. By believing and staying in God’s Word, obeying Him, and believing in His promises, no matter what your circumstances are, at the time. Always remember, you will never go wrong, if you follow what’s right, in God’s sight. Listen to your parents, obey them. They love you and have your best interest at heart, and never be afraid to go to them, to seek their counsel with any problem or concern you have. Next to God, they love you more than anyone. Your grandmother also loves you very much, and prays God will bless you always, and help you keep your commitment to Him, in all things.
Lastly, some books that have encouraged me, and may encourage you:
“Beautiful Girlhood” by Karen Andreola
“Before you meet Prince Charming” by Sarah Mally founder of Bright Lights
“The Duggars : 20 and Counting” by Michelle and Jim-Bob Duggar
“A Love that Multiplies” by Michelle and Jim-Bob Duggar
It may also help to have a list of what you want to have in a future husband and always send those who may come to court you to see your Dad first!